CATALYST NEWS

Eva Dahm, CPCC, MA

July, 2006

Dedicated to your growth and exploration.

Acceptance

Lately lessons have been presenting themselves to me about acceptance. Acceptance is being okay with what exists and knowing deeply that it is perfect for now. Maybe this is my gentler way of addressing impatience with projects not moving as quickly and anticipated.

We are adding a room to our home. So when did we start this process? It's been so long, I can't even remember. The drawings took a long time-weeks and months. Approval by the city took FIVE weeks. (Long in anyone's perspective.) Then we waited two weeks to get on the cement guy's calendar. Now we have a swimming pool in the back with some cement footings at the bottom of the "pool." So still no room (after months).

At first, I was impatient, then disappointed. Now I've come through to the other side and found acceptance. I know the room will be completed one fine day. And I accept that any impatience or pushing on my part serves to make me unhappy and nothing else.

As Jafree Ozwald says, "the mind believes it is the one that is responsible for managing your world. The truth is the mind is not the only Supreme ruler of the entire Universe so your mind has no idea how the whole puzzle is going to look once it is assembled, or how all of the pieces of the puzzle of life are going to fit together. Yet, you can trust that the Universe does have a grand design and that all of the pieces are perfect even in their perceived imperfections."

Another Lesson Appears

Usually every summer I have fewer clients that I do during winter and fall. When it happened this year, I forgot about the seasonality and was dissatisfied. What can I do to change this? I worked through feeling impatient for other circumstances. Accepting that my desire for more time to relax and enjoy the warm weather had created the situation helped me to cool it.

Then I decided to explore some courses of study for the summer. And I found none seemed right this year. So I was really cast adrift (not good for a type A, even one who is "in recovery").

Again the word acceptance comes to me. I realize this is a perfect time to slow down and be still. I decided to meditate more and spend more time with friends.

And finally it occurred to me to PLAY more and have more FUN! What a concept.

World of Rushing Around

Our world tells us to push-push. We are surrounded by messages to make things happen, work hard, insist, etc.

I regularly teach classes in manifesting what you want in life. So take a look at what you have now and realize that on some level your thoughts are creating your world. However, most of us have undisciplined thoughts. And we have unclear thoughts. We focus on what we do NOT want and create more of it.

Deepak Chopra says if you want to know what your thoughts were in the past, look at your body. And he adds, if you want to know what your body will look like in the future, look at your thoughts.

So switch gears now. Be aware of your thoughts and desires. Think about what you do want as if it already exists for you. Feel it as if it is already here. And then let go of the desires and know your dreams are on their way.

This last step of letting go (and accepting what is right now) allows the universe to deliver what you want in spades. When we let go of our vision, many times a greater good can arrive for us. When I let go of how I wanted to summer to look, I noticed I was more relaxed and in the flow.

Trust and Faith

So perhaps this acceptance of mine is really a faith. Faith that the changes are coming and that things are perfect now as they are. I certainly feel happier and more peaceful since I recently re-discovered acceptance for myself. And being peaceful, happy and grateful for NOW creates the emotions we need to pull the next desire to us.

I've worked with a client for a year or so on several goals and especially weight loss. Now with a new focus on eating "gently" (her word) always, she is seeing the weight disappear gently. (One or two pounds per week.)

"Although faith is usually spoken of in somber or sober terms, we prefer the more buoyant note of a hymn written by Protestant minister and composer Al Carmines: Faith is such a simple thing. It can't talk, but only sing. It can't reason, but can dance. Take a chance. Take a chance. Life is full of ways to go. Sun, rain, wind, snow. All unknowingly we trace a geography of grace. From breath to breath and blink to blink, it's never quite the way we think." - Spiritual Literacy, Frederic and Mary Ann Brussat

Questions for You

So when you are not seeing your desired results in the world ask yourself:

Am I clear? Do I really want this?
What are my thoughts focused on?
Am I feeling the joy of having what I have?
Am I accepting that it is coming in the Universe's perfect time? (And perhaps not my own.)

Use any project (as I did) to learn about what you are thinking and what you may want to do differently. And know all is in the perfect order and the perfect time of the Universe.

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